Youth

Anything within limits is useful; exceeding limits, it is a poison. That is the problem of today's youth, you see – unrestrained indulgence, thinking that indulgence is good. What youth has to face in today’s world: temptation for money, for position, for wealth – this is how it all starts.

The youth have a great responsibility – not towards others, but towards themselves – to examine everything that today’s society, including their family and their parents, are teaching. Like building a compound wall around your house, character is a protection around your life. Lose the character, life is lost. It is open to anybody to shoot at you, to destroy you. Avoid all temptations and you will be good, you will grow, you will be respectable, and you will be happy.

That was for youth but it is very important for family/parents also to be available when your young kid needs you and your support the most... If they don't find your support they will find other means to recover from situation. It's very delicate age and you as a parent or a family member should help the youth to show the right direction. Most of the times this support requires lots of patience and endurance from your end but achieve it since that is worth of your kid's life.

Sansarik world!!!

Why people are like that? Why do they hurt each-other? Why do they want themselves to be center of all events? Why they have useless self ego?

In last couple of weeks, i have been listening to conflicts happening between two/more people. Such incidents not only make affected people unhappy but other non-involved people also get affected. The reason behind the conflict is nothing but self ego and immaturity. When i sit back and think about these incidents i feel sooo pity about affected people. Just because one person wants to be center of whole; he/she is putting so many people in trouble and emotional trauma.

Recently, when my very close family member told me that she had some not so good experience with one of the other family member (why not so good because that person had hurt her ego) and she now doesn't want to keep relations with her, i simply told her that just forget it and try to be big hearted. Because of such petty issue, don't spoil your life time relations with the family; at the end that person is yours only. But i don't see her taking my simple words positively and she is still passing through bad emotional phase. Why??

Similar incident happened in my professional life. I really feel bad & de-motivated. Best part is that the people in authority are not doing any thing and keeping their eyes closed. Again it happened just because some one is feeling insecure about own existence.

From my perspective, such things happened because people feel insecure, have useless self ego, want to be in limelight all the time... I agree, all of us have self ego, but we should not use it in negative manner which eventually harm others. Let's be positive thinker and utilize own strengths instead of spending time in bitching about others. I also do so sometimes but that's human nature and my intentions are/were never to harm someone.

WOhhhhh!!!!

What is next?

Yes, i mean what is next in life?

I find myself an ambitious girl. I always want to reach to next level. For me once i achieve one level, i start thinking about what is next. I believe that this energy keeps me motivated but along with that it also makes be competitive, hardworking and focused. But with these plus points there are few negative energies which becomes active - dedicate more time to the task decided, start getting impatient if things do not move fast, health problems increases etc... If i start something new at home or office, i start giving 80% of my time to that task which results into low time for family or office. Sometimes I think is it the sign of discontentment or unhappiness?

For people who are content with what ever they have are happier and live life to fullest.

I decide to not think what is next and live in presence. Will remain happy and healthy as they are key to success.

No matter what happens!!!

Another Year...

Happy New Year.....

One of my best friends is getting married in Feb and i am really happy about her.... When i think about my friends and importance of their's my life or mine in their life, i feel that there are few friends of mine who are really important to me and i don't give second thought on doing anything for them even if we don't get in touch regularly and there are few for whom i am at higher priority even if i don't give them calls or sometimes don't reply to their messages....

Why it happens that for some you really care even if the other is not really doing extra compared to few other friends....

I recently visited one of my college friends... She is again a happy go lucky girl....I again fall in love with her attitude towards the life... I am learning, observing, noticing, feeling.... mind is going on and on, can't stop it, its doing it job.. what is my job...how to control mind...its the one controlling me or i should control it...

28-1-2010
Resume the post - same thoughts, same feelings, control your mind... feel the difference of controlled and uncontrolled mind... people around are so tuned to control their actions by directing their minds...i am amazed...want to re-start meditation...want to re-feel the controlled mind state...

Time...

Its 11:30 p.m. and not feeling to go for sleep.... Many thoughts in mind... Office, home, kid, hubby, vacation, health.......

Spent quality time with my daughter "Disha" and feel really good... She is also happy that mom is only for me during this time...

Yesterday we went for an evening walk and while walking i was listening to Disha...she is really expressive.... Told me everything with minute details about her day...Then she asked me "mamma what did you do?".... I really didn't have a good answer to her question... i thought what i did for whole day... finding mistakes in other developers code and logging it in watson.... or spent time in discussing about a feature ... or prepared breakfast and dinner for family.....

This is routine and i do it everyday... what is that I should do different on each day that i can talk about with my daughter....

So... i re-started reading books... Finished "3 mistakes of my life" by Chetan Bhagat.... Good story and can relate it since i am also a Gujju...

I want to finish "Five point some one" before watching "3 Idiots".

Waiting for 24th.....

Resolution Update

Resolution for year 2010 would be

1.) Reduce few kilos and few inches.. try to fit in older jeans.... :)
2.) Keep up good health and for same start Yoga regularly
3.) Start spending more time with kidooo..
4.) Be more in-different @ workplace with people around...
5.) Take extreme care of throat....Very sensitive and this time around it is hurting me a lot...
6.) Wait for some good time in Feb end or March beginning...
7.) Be in touch with all old friends...
8.) Spend time with self...
9.) Read more good books...
10.) Thank God for everything and relish the current moments....

some more later....

For my kid...

On lunch table people are talking about many topics... But the most interesting from all is "Big Boss"...

People are really talking about that show...can u believe it? Is it really a show which should be broadcast ed in India with the culture we have... I feel miserable when I see such shows being available freely on TV for our young generations.....

Anyways... its not about such reality shows but if you happen to watch one of the Japanese or Chinese cartoon dubbed in Hindi, you will feel the same feeling...

I really don't know how other parents are thinking about these shows I try to keep my kid away from all such... Its not easy... I know...

But never give up.... Become friend of your kid... Ya... this what I am doing with my kid of age 7....